Help with my 12 yr old son...?

I am so lost! I had to raise my son alone for 8 yrs & have to say I have done a great job. I think anyways! Hes in 6th grade & test at a 9th grade level in math & reading.kid would blow ur mind. His teachers tell me that the things that come out of his mouth r things they havent heard since the 60s and 70s. He is a only child & I play a big role in his learning and life in general. I been involved in gangs and drugs as a teen & dont want that for my child. His biological father was murdered due to the same reasons. Im very open with my child he knows the diffrence between right and wrong. He is a awsome kid. But Im pulling my hair out with this kid! The things that comes out of his mouth & the disrespect is unberrible. He was never like this because Im a hard*ss when it come to parenting & he knows u dont speak to ur parents that way. But now that hes in JR High he has change, all I want is my baby back! I cant spank him or put him in time out he is 6 ft Help! Just serious answers plz

Help with my 12 yr old son...?

come up with punishments that u kno will bother him

this is what my mom did with me

she stuck a peice of paper to the fridge

everytime i said something disrespectful she would make a mark on the paper

every five marks she would do something or take something away

so if i had a party that weekend i would have to stay home

if my favorite show was on that night i wouldnt be allowed to watch anything but the news

the first week she did this was really bad because i was testing her

but when i saw how many things i got taken away i learned to stop

if ur concerned that hes bigger than u therefore u cant stop him from doing something

call the police or a male relative or neighbor

he'll soon learn to respect the punishments

and eventually he'll learn to respect u

my advice is to stay strong

if u say something

go through with it

if u tell him hes not going to a party

hes not going end of story

Help with my 12 yr old son...?

your screwed.. your child is a victim of the streets.. its too late.. this kid is gonna be a thug... a gang banger and labeled for the rest of his life... nice going.

Help with my 12 yr old son...?

Some of this is normal because he is a preteen. He's testing his boundary's.

Try grounding him from his favorite things. Tell him in advance that if certain behaviors happen this will be the consequences. But don't ground him forever. Set a time limit. 1 week, or 5 days, I've seen so many people ground there kids for a month, and then 2 weeks into the grounding the kid is acting better, and they take the punishment away. In my opinion this just tells the kid that I can get out of this if I act good for a few days.

Help with my 12 yr old son...?

He's just testing you. You don't have to spank him, but you can discipline him in different ways... no t.v, no phone, no nothing! You just have to lay down different rules now that he is older and stand by it.

Good luck!

Help with my 12 yr old son...?

the only thing you can reall ydo is sit him down and talk to him and let him know what he is doing to you, i know it may be hard but explain about his father....it may make him realize what he's doing and what could happen to him....if that doesnt work you could always threaten to but him in a detention facility....that has helped a lot of troubled kids...

Help with my 12 yr old son...?

well, something must have gone wrong when you say he is being disrespectful to you. have you tried to have an open (friendly) conversation with him? Without that you threaten him in any way I mean....Ask how his day went, ask specific questions, about his likes and dislikes, praise him for being a good student, but tell him it hurts you when he is disrespectful...you get the picture....

also...Is he trying to fit in at school with a certain group of people? Drugs? Have you checked all these things?

Help with my 12 yr old son...?

communication is key, take away privileges and explain why

Help with my 12 yr old son...?

maybe talk to him, if he doesnt change then punish him, thats all you can do

Help with my 12 yr old son...?

take him outa that school & find him a better one. He's testing you to see how far you'll let him go! Just keep on being a hard**** & make sure he knows the rules are same as before.. Does he have any privileges? you could start taking them away (going to friends, hanging out other places..) when he acts out & is rude, let him know you're serious & say things are gonna be changing!

Help with my 12 yr old son...?

My son is a straight A student, on the track and basketball team, he is top of his class and validictorian of his graduating class in May, he has never been in what u could call trouble. Everyone says what a wonderful and awesome kid he is. And I agree! he is a good kid! But when he hit 9th grade- man his mouth got bad! cussing, and just lippy! His hormones r going crazy right now and alot of times teens will say something before they even think. Ive always encouraged my son to express his thoughts and feelings. You have to stand strong on this and let him know that u will not put up with it. Ground him, take away the things he loves most and stick with the punishment. Thats what I ended up doing with my son. Worked like a charm. he still gets a little lippy but he is 17! :)

Help with my 12 yr old son...?

Your son is going through puberty and it is a dilemna for

all parents single and married. You have to reach him by other means like solid respect for something you have done

or expressed in your conversations with him. When they hit

the 40's all of a sudden you get the brain and respect. That

doesn't help right now. How much time to you spend with him

on your days off. Do you go camping with him, or fishing, or

a college class that he can handle. The last suggestion is a

good one because you can do homework together, discuss

the lessons, and point out tips to one another. Join a dancing

class with him both of you can learn some new steps and

you could become dancing partners. Do you have a man in

your life? If you do, have him join you on these adventures.

A man's propective could be very valuable to you in your

common ground of acceptance. Never be just a girl in his

life, be the Mom go to church together and get him into the

teen programs at church, so he can meet others besides those in school. Common ground here is the key to open him up and make him realize his vocabulary has alot to be

desired. Lectures don't cut it, they just turn you off. Lets face

it he is a smart *** and somehow he needs to adjust his

thinking for the future of his life. You know what I mean, but you have to give up something to do with him and maybe he

will turn it around. Men are much better in their twenties than

the teen-age years.

Help with my 12 yr old son...?

I can only guess what he's going thruogh. I mean when everyone around you is saying this and that, it's kinda hard to stay good and keep speaking proper english. If I wasn't home schooled, i'd probably either be depressed, or i'd be street. That's how it is in school now, go with the flow, or drown under it's waves. Talk to him, punish him, or if all else fails let him finish this grade and homeschool him. The are plenty of programs you can use on to computer for him, without having to be there to teach him yourself.