Are parents being shallow when they want their kids to look a certain way?

If a parent doesn't want their child to inherit their mother-in-law's red hair, or wants the child to inherit their father's blue eyes...is that being shallow? Why or why not?

Are parents being shallow when they want their kids to look a certain way?

I dont think so. We always love that our kids will be the best ever in everything and their looks are very essential as well. So we usually like them to have the best eyes in the familly, or the blonde or dark hair or whatever...

It's like wishing the best for our most precious persons in our lives.

Are parents being shallow when they want their kids to look a certain way?

yeah but it happens

Are parents being shallow when they want their kids to look a certain way?

I dont think its being shallow..i just had my baby 7 weeks ago and the whole time i was pregnant i hoped i wasnt going to have a red head..really no reasoning for it but i think everybody goes through that stage where they sit and think of what traits they hope their child has..dads chin, moms eyes,etc...Anyway it turned out i did have a red head lol and i wouldnt wish it away for anything...When that baby comes none of that seems to matter...

Are parents being shallow when they want their kids to look a certain way?

Everybody hopes that their child inherits or does not inherit a certain trait. However, at the end of the day all that should really matter is your child is happy and healthy. Would you really love the child any less if their eyes were not as pretty as you hoped or their hair was not blonde to match their blue eyes?

Are parents being shallow when they want their kids to look a certain way?

No a point no it's not. For instance, I have a genetic disorder that can cause benign tumors to grow. I have a 50/50 chance of passing on to my children. I hope to God that I don't pass it on to any of them, and if I do I hope it doesn't affect their appearance simply because of the way I was treated my whole life. For me it's more protecting them from what I went through than being shallow. I have a tumor next to my right eye and was call horrible names; freak, cyclopes, girl with the folded eye; and I just don't want my children to ever have to live through the pain and the hurt of being ridiculed for something that is way out of their control. All I want is for my kids to be free of the disorder I have so that they can grow up to look as normal as any other child.

Are parents being shallow when they want their kids to look a certain way?

LOL I didn't want my first child to come out with my mother-in-laws icky red hair! I had nightmares about it!...and I'm hoping my second won't be cursed with such a thing either. I don't think it's shallow. Is it shallow to dye your hair a different color or wear colored contacts because you weren't born with what you prefer? It's natural to want certain things for your kids whether it's superficial or not. I think it would be shallow to actually not love or disapprove of you child for having "unwanted physical features". If my son comes out with a wad of crazy, curly red hair, I'll still love him. I'll despise my mother-in-law a little more because I'd never hear the end of it....but that's a completely different issue.